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I want to be spontaneous when it comes to intimacy and make the first move, I have always had a fear of rejection. How can I overcome this?Don't put all your money down for one hand of cards. The less it means to you, the easier it'll be. If you find a guy that wont make or break your day when it comes to whether he likes you or not, go for it. If you get rejected then who cares? You didn't really like him anyway. If it works out then congratulations, but have fun telling him that you're not really interested when he falls head over heels for you.
You can't have it both ways. A genuine person only goes after what they know they want, genuine people get rejected as much as anyone else, it just means more to them because they had their heart in it.
Don't put all your feelings into one potential moment. The less you have invested, the less it hurts to lose. If that sounds eerily disaffected, it's because a jaded outlook isn't who you are. Stick to being genuine, it hurts but nobody said it was fun to build character.I agree with thriftstorequeen..you'll never know 'till you try.
Sure, people can give you tips and advice, but you will never fully understand yourself if you don't try it..yourself. thats one of them there personal things you kinda just have to do it hope for the best and if you get rejected then think of it as their loss and have to move on sorry prolly not much help i can totaly understand where you are coming from; however, i concered my fear by reminding myself that i am only on earth for a short time. so, doI want to regret never going for it and missing something amazing or do i take my chances for a couple of minuets of akwardness if something goes wrong. also, I tell myself that if i dont go for what i want or express myself to the best of my abilities then no one will do it for me. their is no white knight in shinning armer thats a childhood fantasy so if i want my happy ending then i got to go for it. And plus, trust me, it turns out to be great more then it does bad. meaning, i have recieved more positive feed back then i have rejections. and the few rejections that i have recieved where never as earth shattering as i thought. go for it, you can never regret living your life to the fullest.You just have to go through with things. You will face rejection in life just as everyone faces death. You just have to keep going.You will never know if you don't try.everyone gets rejected sometimes. so you have to realize that and just suck it up and go for it. if you get rejected at least you know they arent interested. its better to know and get rejected then not to ask and question what wouldve happened had you asked.look at it as its not the end of the world if someone says no and that there is someone out there who will say yes.Self confidence & sense of self-worth..
to get over it u have 2 try 2 ask them out.#If you have any other info about this subject , Please add it free.# |
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